What Are you Tolerating in Your Life?
I think everyone has filled out a list of goals at some point in time.Â Doing your goals is considered “basic self-improvement.”Â I have my goal sheets as well, but what I’ve found is that my goals has never been as motivating to me as dealing with things I don’t enjoy in my life.
I did one of my group coaching calls last night with some of my clients and we ended up discussing this subject for quite a while.Â There are really only two things that motivate anybody to do anything: pain and/or pleasure.Â You either take action to gain some type of pleasure (which could be as simple as the good feeling you have from giving to charity) or you take action to avoid pain (ask any milliionaire how much they’d be willing to pay to remove physcial pain from their body).Â
Those are the only two real motivators…pain and pleasure.Â If you’ve ever done much copywriting, you’ll know that the motivation of pain isÂ often a much stronger motivator to cause people to take action now.Â People want to remove pain from their lives (both physical and emotional)!
This is why I find working on tolerations to be more powerful in many cases than working on goals with myself and with clients.Â What problems are you putting up with in your life? What are you tolerating that needs to be fixed?Â
You know how to tolerate a lot of problems in your life. You put up with and are dragged down by other peopleâ€™s behaviors, situations, unmet needs, frustrations, and problems. You even put up
with your own bad behavior at times!
Take a few minutes to write down all the things youâ€™re tolerating in your life.Â This includes your business life, your personal life, and even your environmentÂ (poor lighting, dirty office, unorganized desk, etc.).Â Just becoming aware of these tolerations will allow you to begin handling and eliminating them.
After you’ve written down all the things you’re tolerating in your life, now write down an action plan of how you’re going to fix each situation.Â What is your deadline for resolving this problem?Â
It’s a simple exercise, but I highly recommend it to you.Â I’ve found it more effective than simple goal setting for my own life and for the lives of many clients.Related Entries:
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